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4 Reasons Women Think You Are a Jerk

If you have heard that you are a jerk more than once then you are doing something wrong. If you want to get a good girl and be in a relationship you are going to have to stop being a jerk and start doing and saying the right things.

Author: Bellaisa Filippis
Date: Sep 8, 2011 - 3:58:24 PM

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Do you get called a jerk often? Do you know why? Even if you don't get called a jerk but you end up losing many girls after the first date then chances are you are sending off a 'jerk' vibe that is scaring them away.

If you think being a jerk gets the girl then think again! A bad boy gets the girl. Being a jerk is different than being a bad boy. A bad boy is intriguing and inviting while a jerk is offensive and annoying.

Very few women are attracted to a jerk. The only women who may stick around are the ones with low self-esteem or other issues that take away their ability to pick a guy who is really good for them. Those are not the girls you want to be with. The relationship will almost always end in a quick break up, and if it does survive for a period of time then it will be an unpleasant relationship at best.

So how do you know if you are giving off the jerk vibe? Be honest with yourself and see if any of the following traits describe you in your interactions with women.

The Conversation is All About You

If you are really good at talking about yourself but really bad at listening to what she is saying about herself then you will be labelled as a jerk.

Women find men who don't listen to them self-absorbed which is a classic sign of a jerk. Girls feel close to other people through talking and listening. If you can't lend her an ear to talk about herself, if you interrupt her while she's talking and start talking about yourself, or if you don't even let her get a word in edgewise, then you will cut any ties of closeness she feels towards you and become a jerk in her eyes.

You Make Fun of Her Feelings

A woman wants a man who sympathizes with her and validates her feelings. You may think that her crying about her dog passing away is silly but if you tell her that then you will become an instant jerk to her.

Keep in mind that this doesn't have to be a verbal gesture. If you even look like you are not validating her feelings then she will view you as a jerk. Many guys are not aware of their body language, so you may want to learn what your body language is actually telling the opposite sex.

You Talk About or Look at Other Girls Constantly

She is not thinking about you being with other girls when she is with you. She is thinking about you and her getting together. If you add other girls into her thoughts by constantly showing your interest in them then eventually she's going to see you as a jerk who is not interested in just her but rather every girl who walks this planet. You don't want her to think that!

No girl wants a guy who is semi-interested in them. Many girls have bad experiences with jerks who cheat on them or play the field and hurt them in the process. If you like her then keep your eyes on her only and don't talk about how hot that girl at work is.

You Put Her Down

If she says that she wants to be an astronaut and you tell her that she will probably never be one, then she will see you as a jerk. You are putting down her dreams and goals and making her feel bad about herself. What kind of decent guy does that?

A guy of interest to her is going to uplift her and push her towards her dreams, not tell her that she will never reach them. It doesn't matter if it is about something she is doing tomorrow or something she has planned for ten years from now, you should support her life and her decision in it.

Bellaisa is the owner of pleasure her tonight a website with relationship advice for men on dating, sex, and relationship issues. Learn how to pleasure her and become a man that every woman wants.

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